The Truth Journey as End Stage Kidney Patient Part 2
I was a very happy child during my childhood. Since from primary school to secondary school, i active in sports and society. a child who always bring medals every competitions. Long Jump, high jump and running are most of my best score. I still remember my mom told me how active i am during my childhood. always playing outdoor and too naughty she said. Always be leader even my friends older than me. i guess that is how i was brought up, more independent and always make my own decision. Kind of stubborn and strong character as told, i was selected to be a school representative for the hockey player. For me sports is one of happiness in my life. i was one of the sports favorite athlete in the school. Famous and respected. i also the leader for sports community and appointed as monitor in classroom.
After graduate from Secondary school, i started work as part time in hotel as stewardess, nice to hear but actually you need to clean the plates and glasses after function party and also the whole kitchen. but i was paid well and became one of my supervisor favorite. So every function, he will call me for the slot, although tiring, i really enjoyed doing my job. i can give my mom extra and spend for myself. if no slot, i will work with my brother in law cutting grass at rich man house. He will cut and i will clean. Good and clean job. we share profit equally. and we do house painting as well just to earn something for the pocket money. Since my dad left my mom, our life little bit struggle which mom has to work to raise 3 of us, my sister from my mom 2nd husband which passed away when my sister just 2 years old, me and my brother. she woke up 4am to prepare our food and left around 6am to catch the bus. she is very strong and responsible mother. She sells cookies for every festival and good in art making decorative flowers for every wedding occasion. i have another step brother and sister from my mom 1st husband, also passed away when both of them still small. she has no luck in married, my father left us in unstable financially. That's how i see how my mother struggle to raise us. All my siblings working except me and my brother. my first brother was state judge and my second sister working as executive in one of Japanese factory. During their childhood, both of them raised by my grandmother in our hometown. My mother married my father and stay in town together with me, my brother with my third sister.
i am very healthy teenager and active in many ways, even in the house, i do housework to help my mom. after graduate from high school, i was transferred to Burma now called as Ranggon for further study and at the same time am staying in one of Embassy staff to look after their children as side income. i loved doing it since i love being with children. The study had to stop half way due to government internal affair conflict with military. i was offered to continue to Australia in one of the subsidiary University in Melbourne. After graduate, i went back to my country. My first working in factory under Design team for mold fabrication and later i applied in construction company as Junior Civil Engineer. Well that is starting point of my overall career as Civil Engineer.
For record, I was consider healthy among my family member. seldom get sick and very active in any outdoor activity. every holiday, i will spend camping and swimming with all my 6 nephews and one niece. we will overnight and spend time together every holiday. i have very strong bond with them. they are like my own children until one day i decide to get child adoption for my own. yes i adopted a daughter and i raised her as my own till now.
Life was wonderful at that time, i don't have problem with financial, always have extra for my family and myself. the first property i bought and we all lives together happily. i get a maid to look after my mom and i arranged a lavish and grand birthday party for my mom 84th birthday. i bought the first luxury car for myself and 2nd year, i bought another small unit of house as investment, i was able to bring my family to perform Umrah in Mecca and spend holiday with family. on 24th February 2014, we received a call from my sister back in country that my brother in law passed away due to prostate cancer. oh i cannot imagine the situation for my sister because the whole family was away from country. my mom started crying and i could hold my tears as well. i love my sister very much, although we are from different father, the bond between us is very strong. we grew up together and she is the most closest to me. i still remember every time i will fight with my brother, she will come and side on me even though i in wrong side. That is how much she loves me. But from her happy side, she is actually sick and always fainted every time she had an episode attack. Poor my sister. She had 4 boys and after my brother in law passed away, i took charge for all financial support for my nephews. Their study and payment for arranging my sister personal transportation to work because i don't want her to take public transport with that kind of sickness. The paid for house bills utilities and of course weekly groceries. Like i said, life was wonderful. i booked plane ticket for my mom and my niece to visit me abroad, almost every year and every country i was stationed, she was able to visit almost all middle east countries like Syria, Lebanon, Bahrain. Abu Dhabi, Dubai, Turkey and Qatar. She deserved the best of life after hard work raising us.
After time, with much saving from the investments, i bought another property, bungalow lot with lake view. that was my dream house after all. I sold my 2nd house to pay upfront extra. The house well manage but nobody stay there since the area quite isolated and privacy. Only every vacation we will pass by to clean the house and gathering for family day. Living abroad gives me financial freedom and late 2013 i bought my first Harley Davidson 48 motorcycle. Having group ride every weekend with friends and good food of course. Every year travel with my mom and family, i was active animal rescuer and become member of one prestige animal welfare community. i loved animals and having 3 cats at home complete my life. my first cat lucy, second Aref and third is Coco. what a wonderful life i had,
On late 2015, back then i was introduce by a friend to get a loan in which actually am not interested but with soft approach and explaining the benefits, i fall a trap. the loan was approved for 200,000 easily. with young age and i dont really aware, i keep on spending and that's how my financial starting unstable, to cover the loss, i apply another loan and again it was approved another 150,000. My financial getting tight and i decided to mortgage the 1st house to my sister, i cannot control my financial and always struggle by end of month. Bank notice keep on coming on delay payment. i sold all my shares.
i was staying alone abroad until 2017 i met one sweet and funny person who is with me till now. she helps me with some cash to pay my upfront bills. she is very much helpful and kind, we getting close day by day and decide to stay together. life was stable again but little bit struggle. i started saving together with her and we able to construct a water station but since no one to look after we hold the business and keep some cash for savings until Covid 19 hits in early 2020. i was lucky not infected but in precaution mode. Construction still going on to meet the world cup 2022 dateline. Working condition drastically change, many got infected leave only me to look after the project with tight schedule. Although my strong immune system. my body cannot take it without proper rest and sleep. my blood pressure getting inconsistence. and yes i was diagnose with Hypertension with life time maintenance.
Finally we managed to complete on time the schedule and world cup was successfully completed. Everybody happy and i started to notice that my health getting worst. i was diagnosed with stage 2 kidney failure. We took a break for vacation together back to her country. We spend tine together, we talked about improving the financial. That was our first time travel together alone and i had so much rest during the vacation. we spend new year together in island, we flew back to her hometown and met with her family for another gathering and short tip family vacation. Spend in very cold and cozy mountain. Life was normal again but overtime after few test and admitted, the kidney reading falling down again and within one year, result of my creatinine getting higher and higher. i fall under category stage 5 which is end stage. Life staring getting more depressing and i lost focus. The current project start slowing down and i working as a contract staff, financial little bit crucial. i sold my bike for savings. i started my dialysis 3 times a week and additional expenses added to my monthly, my daughter university tuition fee and her monthly expenses. my mom maintenance, and bills utilities. i started feel the pressure. my relationship start shaking but we manage well and solve in good ways.
Philosophy always refer as life is like a pulse, ups and downs, yes i believe in that. and i started to feel the tightness and bitter in life. With loan, dialysis and monthly expenses i feel little bit stressful. Knowing that my health is not well, My mom decided to stay with me abroad with my maid. We shifted to a bigger house since my nephew and niece will be staying along with us. Unfortunate event, my mom fall and slipped, and cause her hips fractured and has to undergo surgery. Thank God she fully recovered and discharged after 2 weeks admitted. i always pray that we both in good health.
My partner Teena taking course in Nursing Assistant, for her to gain additional profession for future potential career. She doing well and finally completed the course and graduated successfully. I am so happy and proud of her.
To be continue in Part 3
