Confidence isn’t about flexing in the mirror or dramatically tossing your hair like you’re in a shampoo commercial. It’s about subtle actions—things so smooth that even secret agents would take notes. Here are eight absurdly brilliant things confident people do in public, whether you notice them or not.
1. Walk Into a Room Like They Own It (Without Actually Being a Landlord)
Confident people don’t tiptoe in like a cat burglar in socks. They stride in like they were personally invited to exist. Do they actually own the room? Probably not, unless they’re Jeff Bezos. But do they walk like they do? Absolutely.
“Confidence is walking into a room and assuming everyone is your long-lost best friend.” – Probably Some Confident Person
2. Hold Eye Contact Like They’re Downloading Your Soul
Ever tried staring at someone for too long and ended up in an unintentional staring contest? Confident people don’t flinch. They make comfortable, natural eye contact—not in a creepy, "I know what you ate for lunch" way, but just enough to show they’re present.
Fun fact: The average person blinks 15-20 times per minute—unless they’re making confident eye contact, in which case they mysteriously forget how to blink at all.
3. Speak Their Mind Without Sounding Like a Malfunctioning Robot
They don’t rehearse conversations in their head like a bad sitcom script. They say things as they come—calmly, assertively, and without using filler words like “uhh” and “umm” 37 times per sentence.
Confidence isn’t about saying the right thing. It’s about saying it like you believe it, even if it’s about pineapple pizza.
4. Embrace Silence Like a Monk in a Noise-Canceling Chamber
While some people panic when there’s a pause in conversation (cue nervous laughter and weather commentary), confident folks just chill. They know silence isn’t awkward—it’s just…silent.
So the next time someone goes quiet, don’t rush to fill the void. Let it linger. Let the awkwardness marinate. Maybe even sip your coffee dramatically for effect.
5. Laugh Off Mistakes Like They’re Getting Paid Per Blunder
Tripped on the sidewalk? Forgot someone’s name again? Sent a text meant for your mom to your boss? No problem. Confident people shrug it off like a pro.
"Confidence is not the absence of mistakes, it’s the ability to pretend you meant to do it." – Shakespeare (probably)
6. Say “No” Without Offering Their Entire Life Story as an Excuse
Want to join my 5 AM jogging club? Nope. Want to babysit my three raccoons? Also nope. Confident people say “no” without guilt, regret, or an unnecessary PowerPoint presentation explaining why.
Try it: “No, but I wish you luck in your raccoon-related endeavors.” See? Easy.
7. Take Compliments Like a Professional Compliment Receiver
Ever complimented someone only for them to say, “Oh, this old thing? I got it on clearance while crying in a parking lot”? Yeah, confident people don’t do that.
When someone says, “Hey, you look great today,” they don’t deflect or argue. They just smile, say ‘thank you,’ and move on. No need to fight praise like it’s a personal attack.
8. Be Unapologetically Themselves (Even If That Means Wearing Crocs With Socks)
The ultimate sign of confidence? Not caring if people think you’re weird. Confident folks don’t shrink to fit in—they own their quirks. They wear the loud shirts. They tell the dad jokes. They dance in the grocery store aisle because "Billie Jean" was playing and it felt right.
“Be yourself. Unless you can be Batman. Then be Batman.”
The Absurdly Simple Actionable Step:
Pick one of these today and test it out. Hold that eye contact. Say "no" without an essay. Enter a room like you’re the protagonist of your own action movie.
Confidence isn’t about being perfect—it’s about owning your space in the world. And maybe, just maybe, learning to accept compliments without looking like you just swallowed a lemon.
Now go forth and strut confidently, you magnificent human.
