sometimes when something or something with someone doesnt workout it hurts , but us humans the first thing we do is to blame the thing or the other person and thats very wrong , its wrong in so mandy ways , one of the many ways is it hurts us by feeling guilty (that i might did dome thing woring or im the wrong person or not enough), creating hate insaide of us towerd us or the other person othe the thing it self , makes us suck in our place and feeling lost and there is nothing to do , it make us angruy ,sad,unenough, and unfair and thats un justis to us ,
but the trick is that the most painfull thing is not feeling unfair or the other things , its the feeling of losing no matter whats the reason , losing infront of the other person , losing the thing that to hopes for the most, losing what you worked for alote , thats what hurts the most , not you never gitting what or who you wanted , or not gitting the result that you were sure of , or the way the every thing didnt work out , or that you wasted something gone and never will come back , but its just the idea of losing , and ofcurse the hurts the most in every new catogory , like your first job , your first love , your first cooked meal by you that you worked hard on it , in general its just the idea of losing , and ofcurse no one or most of the people dont realize that in the start , they realize it in the end , and when they finally accept that i lost and its okay if i lose no one is perfect , then they can forgive the lost thing or the person no matter what , and just then they can move on ,
i know its hard with actions combaring to to just words , but step by step , slowly you can get out of it with comfert , its okay to lose even if it hard for the first time or beacouse it was so spiceal , but think that you did what you could at that time , and that you mostly wont lose at the same thing again , when you think how sad you are think also of the good time that you spend with or in it ,
so not every thing and all of it is bad , at least you tried it even if its very painfull and unforgatable , but accept that you cant controll of every thing or every person , life happens , things happens out of our controll , its so you can cheer up look at it as a leason even if you dont see the point at the begining trust me it will show up no matter what and you will see and understand it , but every thing at its on time , and thats what make it work , that it happens at its on and right time ,
my advice is to accept the whole proccess from happiness to getting shock , to getting disapointed , to hate , to grife , to gitting tierd , to want to be better , to accept , to forgive , and to heal , take the time that you want so you can never go back to and of thoes steps when you thing about it again.
