Dear grandchild,
We all have a past, whether it's sad or beautiful, it cannot be changed no matter how hard it may seem to let it go. When you think of it, some pasts are funny and worth living again every day because they left amazing memories in our lives while some pasts can make you sad, frustrated, scared, and even afraid of taking the next bold steps just because of what people might say, the bad luck you had, the mockery you experienced or the painful memories connected to it. Memories can cause physiological and psychological traumas or problems. The past can control your emotions and actions such that sometimes people or places may seem bad to you thus causing you to withdraw or isolate yourself.
Hear child, we all have that dark past that haunts us or that upsets us, but it should never stand in the way of your future. So, what if you were not good in speeches, you embarrassed yourself in public and everyone laughed; should that stop you from presenting your ideas to the press today? Just because your first marriage did not work out, should you quit loving? Just because you failed the interview, should you quit searching for jobs? Everybody at some point fails or becomes disappointed but those are just lessons learned rather than life imprisonment, so you need not be a prisoner of your past. Honestly, nobody is perfect, we are all working through our imperfections. You must learn that it's okay to be the odd one or to make mistakes, what matters is not how bad the past is but rather how much you kept going off it or started afresh every time with the hope of a better day.
My honey we should never let our past determine the future or influence the present. It does not matter what happened to you back then, the issue is what are you doing now and how it will affect the future. Learn how to forgive yourself and let go of things you cannot do anything about. When you make mistakes, get to know where you went wrong and laugh out loud that you made it this time not in the future, and thank God that it is not that bad because it would have been worse than that. It is rather seeing the positive side of your past because whether you choose to live the past or get on with your life, time still flies, and life goes on, it will not wait still for you to realize how much you are missing out. Remember bad things happen every day and to everybody, the difference comes in how you deal with them.
Take time and pray the serenity prayer. 'Please God give me the serenity to accept things that I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference' If you take time to reflect deeply on that prayer, one can realize that the past can only be accepted and left behind us even if it might be hard sometimes but prayers, affirmations and faith will do the magic. On the part of courage, it is more of working with the situation you have at hand and making the most of it to get the best out of it. The wisdom will make you understand the difference between the past, present, and future so that you can always move on with hopes of a better today and the best tomorrow. Remember the old saying 'tomorrow never comes' that means the best of your life is yet to come so live to your best.
It is always good to treasure and remember happy memories that encourage us, that remind us of our strengths and abilities that during life we might have forgotten them. Memories that make us feel empowered and better off about ourselves hence gain strength to carry on with life despite its challenges. Beautiful pasts should be made part of us so that we can look forward to a better tomorrow. Philippians 4:8 says, "Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything, worthy of praise, dwell on these things." Oooh! how much I love this verse!
My sweet love, among the things that took away my smile back then was the fact that the past always remains unchanged no matter how better you might be today. I normally used to sit back and think over if I had lived my life differently probably, I would have been in a better place or if I had made other decisions, more opportunities would have been at my door. So, a lot of ifs would go through my head and take away my happiness and satisfaction over my current situation. I would forget all that the Lord has done for me and what I have succeeded in my life and feel like I have lived a worthless life, sometimes I would feel like maybe things are not working out for me because I am a big disappointment. A lot of absurd assumptions would come to my head most especially devilish ones. I call them that since they are full of negativity. Trust me or anything you want but all these thoughts are wrong.
In most instances we are not ready to face the consequences of our actions at the same time we are too lazy to think over the most likely effects of our actions before doing them. Nevertheless, it makes life interesting and full of adventures. So, my child in the past has experiences, lessons, and memories. Live to those contents of the past rather than regrets. Life is too short to live regretting even your God did not put all the efforts to make you who you are for you to judge and condemn yourself. Chill, you are not the first to have made the mistakes you did nor will you be the last so get up and make things right. You never know how much your experiences can change people and help them no matter how horrible it seems if you are ready to let it go and start fresh, remember everything starts with a choice. It all depends on you.
It's not easy, I understand. Sometimes we are afraid to stand up thinking we might fall again and go through even worse circumstances. We are too scared to face our fears, so we would rather not try at all than be disappointed. It is funny how our minds can create a very negative platform within us such that we find the bright future so abstract and better off reliving the past that we are aware of. My Baby if you do not try you will never know. You cannot tell the sweetness if you do not know the bitterness. They are dependent on each other. We would have not known light if it wasn't for darkness. These two phenomena good and bad are relative but they can only be distinguished when both are experienced.
Your past is memories and something about memories can be a treasure or forgotten so you have a choice between the two nothing in between because one cannot change or rectify the past so don't sweat it. It is never too late to stand up for yourself despite being invisible in your past, it is okay to be brave and speak out your point of view in anything. The ideas, thoughts, solutions, questions, feelings, and reasoning that you have are yours to keep and be proud of so if your past was lived not acknowledging all this, take a break and start afresh because you are living away from a very exciting future that is yet my love.
My baby, I have tried my best to never regret the decisions that I have made in my life. Not because they were perfect or that they didn't cause any harm but rather because I have learned how to forgive myself and the surroundings and most importantly to appreciate my reasons and understand the circumstances that led me to do that so that I can make better decisions tomorrow. The fact is that before anyone acknowledges what you have done with your life you should do it on your own for you know oneself than anyone could ever. Honestly what people see and know it's only what you display so whether genuine or not they can only get that far with who you are. So, you are the best judge of what could have been done and why it happened the way it did. Honey "If you won't let the past die then it won't let you live". There are times we get into relationships that probably feel heaven like, we cannot see ourselves with anyone better than that one person, and we get too attached that our lives are useless without them, they come into our lives make beautiful memories, and heartbroken they live us wounded and feeling like our purpose might have seized for a while. It's a very traumatizing experience for anyone. Hear me out loud and clear, life must go on, not because the past is not worth living or that it is easy but rather because it's the past that was your yesterday. You cannot stop your tomorrow because of the past that cannot be altered, you can't keep on living the present towards the future if you won't let your past die, bury it, and let yourself meet better people. There are plenty of amazing souls out there, you can't stop loving them because this one individual made your life great and suddenly left it on a highway, and boom you have no idea where to start. Take time to think of all the people who got you to where you are right before him or her, think of all the blessings that you have all around you. Do you think it is okay to stop living or feeling alive over a human who cannot even tell if you will be alive the next minute? Tell yourself you're too blessed for a past that blocks your future, repeat too blessed, and overflowing blessings for every breath.
This is among the reasons why I encouraged you from the start to realize your purpose in life, the worth you have independent of who is part of your life. Have a theme (goal, vision, mission, purpose) of your life before writing the chapters so that every chapter and all who come and go lead you to the same goal. This will always remind you of who you are and the great things you are made for. Never lose yourself to anyone or anything. Be brave and face the hardship with your head high because all will pass, no situation is permanent and most importantly life must go on.
Come on take your chances right this very minute and say 'In God I trust, am a new person every day. My past is not me but rather what I have decided to be today, and I have decided to be my best and live my God-given destiny of prosperity. I am so sorry my dear Lord for not seeing how much you have blessed me due to these worldly disappointments. As in from today I live up to you to make my present and future worthwhile. Thank you for raising me again, Amen'. Remember my dear child nothing is too hard for God.
We all have a past, whether it's sad or beautiful, it cannot be changed no matter how hard it may seem to let it go. When you think of it, some pasts are funny and worth living again every day because they left amazing memories in our lives while some pasts can make you sad, frustrated, scared, and even afraid of taking the next bold steps just because of what people might say, the bad luck you had, the mockery you experienced or the painful memories connected to it. Memories can cause physiological and psychological traumas or problems. The past can control your emotions and actions such that sometimes people or places may seem bad to you thus causing you to withdraw or isolate yourself.
Hear child, we all have that dark past that haunts us or that upsets us, but it should never stand in the way of your future. So, what if you were not good in speeches, you embarrassed yourself in public and everyone laughed; should that stop you from presenting your ideas to the press today? Just because your first marriage did not work out, should you quit loving? Just because you failed the interview, should you quit searching for jobs? Everybody at some point fails or becomes disappointed but those are just lessons learned rather than life imprisonment, so you need not be a prisoner of your past. Honestly, nobody is perfect, we are all working through our imperfections. You must learn that it's okay to be the odd one or to make mistakes, what matters is not how bad the past is but rather how much you kept going off it or started afresh every time with the hope of a better day.
My honey we should never let our past determine the future or influence the present. It does not matter what happened to you back then, the issue is what are you doing now and how it will affect the future. Learn how to forgive yourself and let go of things you cannot do anything about. When you make mistakes, get to know where you went wrong and laugh out loud that you made it this time not in the future, and thank God that it is not that bad because it would have been worse than that. It is rather seeing the positive side of your past because whether you choose to live the past or get on with your life, time still flies, and life goes on, it will not wait still for you to realize how much you are missing out. Remember bad things happen every day and to everybody, the difference comes in how you deal with them.
Take time and pray the serenity prayer. 'Please God give me the serenity to accept things that I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference' If you take time to reflect deeply on that prayer, one can realize that the past can only be accepted and left behind us even if it might be hard sometimes but prayers, affirmations and faith will do the magic. On the part of courage, it is more of working with the situation you have at hand and making the most of it to get the best out of it. The wisdom will make you understand the difference between the past, present, and future so that you can always move on with hopes of a better today and the best tomorrow. Remember the old saying 'tomorrow never comes' that means the best of your life is yet to come so live to your best.
It is always good to treasure and remember happy memories that encourage us, that remind us of our strengths and abilities that during life we might have forgotten them. Memories that make us feel empowered and better off about ourselves hence gain strength to carry on with life despite its challenges. Beautiful pasts should be made part of us so that we can look forward to a better tomorrow. Philippians 4:8 says, "Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything, worthy of praise, dwell on these things." Oooh! how much I love this verse!
My sweet love, among the things that took away my smile back then was the fact that the past always remains unchanged no matter how better you might be today. I normally used to sit back and think over if I had lived my life differently probably, I would have been in a better place or if I had made other decisions, more opportunities would have been at my door. So, a lot of ifs would go through my head and take away my happiness and satisfaction over my current situation. I would forget all that the Lord has done for me and what I have succeeded in my life and feel like I have lived a worthless life, sometimes I would feel like maybe things are not working out for me because I am a big disappointment. A lot of absurd assumptions would come to my head most especially devilish ones. I call them that since they are full of negativity. Trust me or anything you want but all these thoughts are wrong.
In most instances we are not ready to face the consequences of our actions at the same time we are too lazy to think over the most likely effects of our actions before doing them. Nevertheless, it makes life interesting and full of adventures. So, my child in the past has experiences, lessons, and memories. Live to those contents of the past rather than regrets. Life is too short to live regretting even your God did not put all the efforts to make you who you are for you to judge and condemn yourself. Chill, you are not the first to have made the mistakes you did nor will you be the last so get up and make things right. You never know how much your experiences can change people and help them no matter how horrible it seems if you are ready to let it go and start fresh, remember everything starts with a choice. It all depends on you.
It's not easy, I understand. Sometimes we are afraid to stand up thinking we might fall again and go through even worse circumstances. We are too scared to face our fears, so we would rather not try at all than be disappointed. It is funny how our minds can create a very negative platform within us such that we find the bright future so abstract and better off reliving the past that we are aware of. My Baby if you do not try you will never know. You cannot tell the sweetness if you do not know the bitterness. They are dependent on each other. We would have not known light if it wasn't for darkness. These two phenomena good and bad are relative but they can only be distinguished when both are experienced.
Your past is memories and something about memories can be a treasure or forgotten so you have a choice between the two nothing in between because one cannot change or rectify the past so don't sweat it. It is never too late to stand up for yourself despite being invisible in your past, it is okay to be brave and speak out your point of view in anything. The ideas, thoughts, solutions, questions, feelings, and reasoning that you have are yours to keep and be proud of so if your past was lived not acknowledging all this, take a break and start afresh because you are living away from a very exciting future that is yet my love.
My baby, I have tried my best to never regret the decisions that I have made in my life. Not because they were perfect or that they didn't cause any harm but rather because I have learned how to forgive myself and the surroundings and most importantly to appreciate my reasons and understand the circumstances that led me to do that so that I can make better decisions tomorrow. The fact is that before anyone acknowledges what you have done with your life you should do it on your own for you know oneself than anyone could ever. Honestly what people see and know it's only what you display so whether genuine or not they can only get that far with who you are. So, you are the best judge of what could have been done and why it happened the way it did. Honey "If you won't let the past die then it won't let you live". There are times we get into relationships that probably feel heaven like, we cannot see ourselves with anyone better than that one person, and we get too attached that our lives are useless without them, they come into our lives make beautiful memories, and heartbroken they live us wounded and feeling like our purpose might have seized for a while. It's a very traumatizing experience for anyone. Hear me out loud and clear, life must go on, not because the past is not worth living or that it is easy but rather because it's the past that was your yesterday. You cannot stop your tomorrow because of the past that cannot be altered, you can't keep on living the present towards the future if you won't let your past die, bury it, and let yourself meet better people. There are plenty of amazing souls out there, you can't stop loving them because this one individual made your life great and suddenly left it on a highway, and boom you have no idea where to start. Take time to think of all the people who got you to where you are right before him or her, think of all the blessings that you have all around you. Do you think it is okay to stop living or feeling alive over a human who cannot even tell if you will be alive the next minute? Tell yourself you're too blessed for a past that blocks your future, repeat too blessed, and overflowing blessings for every breath.
This is among the reasons why I encouraged you from the start to realize your purpose in life, the worth you have independent of who is part of your life. Have a theme (goal, vision, mission, purpose) of your life before writing the chapters so that every chapter and all who come and go lead you to the same goal. This will always remind you of who you are and the great things you are made for. Never lose yourself to anyone or anything. Be brave and face the hardship with your head high because all will pass, no situation is permanent and most importantly life must go on.
Come on take your chances right this very minute and say 'In God I trust, am a new person every day. My past is not me but rather what I have decided to be today, and I have decided to be my best and live my God-given destiny of prosperity. I am so sorry my dear Lord for not seeing how much you have blessed me due to these worldly disappointments. As in from today I live up to you to make my present and future worthwhile. Thank you for raising me again, Amen'. Remember my dear child nothing is too hard for God.
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